Embrace Change

Change is one of the guarantees and constants of life.  The only human being that truly wants change is a baby!  Life changes in each season of life.  Some changes are exciting like graduations, new jobs, new homes, weddings, and births.  Some changes are traumatic like the loss of a loved one, job loss, transitioning to a new place, and all the other types of losses in life. 

You cannot change what has happened.  You can only change how you will deal with it.  Will it break you and keep you stuck in the past?  Or will you embrace the change, accept that it has happened, release the pain, and take a step into this different way of life?

You can fight against change, but it still will happen.  When you experience any type of loss, you need to give yourself permission to grieve what it was.  You grieve the life you had and probably still want.  You grieve who you were in that life.  You also grieve how you felt then and how different it feels now.  You cannot live in the past.  You grieve in each season of life as your body naturally matures.  Your ability is different, and your body lets you know you are not as young as you used to be.

Change is a constant.  It is reframing the situation and gaining a new perspective on life.  Your life has changed.  How you interact with other people feels difficult and even how they respond to you may feel awkward.  This is what life currently is.  People expect you to be the same person even with the change in your life.

With change comes figuring out who you are now that the familiar and normal way of life no longer exists.  To determine who you are now means to believe you matter to yourself and that you can change and embrace this new chapter of life just for you. To embrace change means you open yourself up to going a different path and you accept change as a natural part of your life. 

It is focusing on a daily purpose.  Each day God gives to you a purpose.  Yes, our total life has purpose and meaning, but to embrace your current life, it is focusing on what your purpose is for this day.  Sometimes your purpose is to just rest and be.  It is allowing yourself to be the purpose some days and caring for your personal needs.  Other days, it is looking for a reason for your day.  It may be to bring joy and a smile to another person who is having a tough day.  It may be helping someone in need or visiting and listening to their cares and struggles.

When you have purpose and meaning in your daily life, you can accept the changes because they have brought you to this daily purpose.  Focus on today and not try to figure out everything about your future life.  You do not live in the past or future, you live in the present moment.  Find good and purpose in front of you.  Embrace life and the changes.

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Elaine J. Sturtz

Living In The Different