Covered In Singing

“The Lord your God is with you; the mighty One will save you.  He will rejoice over you.  You will rest in his love; he will sing and be joyful about you.”  Zephaniah 3:17

My sister made a beautiful prayer quilt for my dear friend.  My friend is a gifted musician, and the quilt was made with fabric printed with music.  It was a joy to present this gift to my friend as she begins the journey of cancer treatments.  The quilt has many individual strings that are tied and as a person tied the string in a knot, the person said a prayer for the receiver of the quilt.  My friend will wrap up in this quilt as she receives her treatment, and she will feel that she is covered in prayer.

My friend is gifted in music and prayer.  It is a joy to pray with her and feel the closeness of her heart to her Heavenly Father.  The joy of the Lord radiates from her in prayer and when she sings and leads others in worship and praise.  Music is in her heart.

Prayer is the music of our souls.  We develop a rhythm to our prayer life and create a harmony between our heart and God’s.  Words are not always needed in our expression to God, and God does not always answer in audible words.  Prayer and music are universal languages that are not just spoken but felt and experienced.

Music is woven into the fabric of my being and life.  I grew up with my mom playing stacks of gospel quartet records on our stereo.  I enjoyed the hymns of worship and Sunday School in my little home church.  Vacation Bible School songs are still in my heart today.  Music is played daily in my home and always in my vehicle.  When words fail me in prayer and worship, a song will express how I feel and provide the avenue to truly glorify God.

Songs can assist us in expressing our feelings and emotions. Music sparks memories within us, and we associate certain songs with people and events. No matter the type of music, there are songs that will speak to you and allow you to feel what your heart has trouble expressing.  Music helps to heal our souls.

God loves to sing over us too.  The Scripture in Zephaniah tells us that God will sing and be joyful about us.  I believe God sings through nature too.  In the wind through the trees and all His creation.  God loves to sing so God created birds that sing such a melody of joy.  Each morning, I hear the robins sing their songs of joy that a new day has begun. 

I have an app on my phone that recognizes the sounds of all the different birds.  Each one has their unique song to sing, and I am learning to recognize some of the bird calls.  The birds cover my morning runs with singing, and they close out my porch sitting evenings with songs.  The birds remind me that music is within all of God’s creation and creatures.  God sings over us, that is, God covers us with the songs of nature and God created the songs of life that He wants us to sing with Him.

Sometimes, our song is sad and filled with deep sorrow and pain, but we still can sing.  Sometimes our song is filled with joy and thankfulness, and we sing songs of praise and glorify God.  No matter how we feel, we can always sing, and God hears every word and feeble attempt.  I believe sometimes God holds us and sings to us through His Holy Spirit a reassuring melody that He is always with us and will never leave us.  No matter what you are going through right now, know that God is covering you in His song of love and comfort.

You are covered in singing.  So keep singing and listening to the Lord sing over you.

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I am available to your group, organization, retreat or event to speak on a variety of topics – Grief & Loss, Next Steps Into Life, Living Life with Joy, Anxiety & Worry, Foundations of Life, and many others that we can create together.

Just message me, and we can schedule

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My Books are available through different venues

·       Tea Story in Upper Sandusky

·       Personally through me

·       Amazon

Living In The Different

          Live Different Moments

                     Life Lessons of a Lone Trooper

Check out my Newspaper Articles also on my Website – www.livinginthedifferent.com

Gleanings From the Beach

“If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you.”  John 15:7

I spent some time at the beach recently enjoying the sunshine, the rest, and renewal.  I listened and learned a lot about life from the beach.  I abided in God’s presence and just listened.  I want to share some of what I gleaned from the beach with you -

At the beach, there is equality.  Everyone is the same – enjoying the sand, the water, the waves.  When you are in the water, there are no differences.  Everyone is enjoying the moment.

There are rules at the beach that seem to be obeyed by everyone – you can leave your stuff – your chair, your towel, your toys and everything you have brought and set up and nobody bothers it if you go take a walk.

A smile or head nod crosses all language barriers.

Children are filled with joy and laughter at the beach.  Their smiles are contagious.

Complimenting a child brings a smile to them and their parents.

People are more polite on the beach than in their vehicles going and coming from the beach.

The waves always come.  No matter the time of day or night, the waves never stop.  Like the waves, things always happen in life.  You cannot stop life from happening.  You learn to embrace it and jump in just like you jump into the waves.

There is always a breeze at the beach.  In life, there is always the wind of the Spirit around us if we take the time to recognize the Spirit’s presence.

It is more comfortable and cooler at the beach than at the pool.  There are those who vacation at the Beach but spend all their time at the pool and never go to the actual beach and experience the sand, the water, and the waves.  They never experience the beauty of God’s creation.  It is like people who are Christians and do not live in the joy and freedom of the abundant life that Jesus gives.  They never experience the fullness of life that God gives freely through His grace.

Always look up.  The clouds are always changing.  The sunrises and sunsets are God’s beautiful painting each morning and evening.  You need to look for the beauty around you.  It is always present.

If you look at the water, waves, sand, sky and people, God created them all and knows every grain of sand, drop of water, and hairs on every head.

Every moment is a God moment because God is in every moment.

Footprints are like are past sins – God washes them away.  When we look back immediately, they are still there because we still linger in our past.  When we focus forward and allow God to cleanse us, the past mistakes are gone. 

The closer you run to the water and the waves, the firmer the sand, but you get hit by the waves.  The closer you are to God’s strong foundation, the stronger you are when you get pounded by life.  When you start to sink in your run on the beach, you are too far from the water.  In life, we sink when we are too far from the Living water of Jesus.

You can miss God’s glory if you don’t look up.

Clouds are every changing just like life.  But God is who does the changing and is with us.

Listen to the sounds of the beach.  God speaks loudly in the waves, softly in the clouds.

There is always room for you at the beach.  No matter how crowded it may seem, there is always space somewhere on the sand to set up your chair and towel.  God always has room for you.

You need to rest and take in the calming water, the breeze, the sunshine, and be in the moment and not think about what comes next.  Just rest and relax.  Life needs to be lived in the present not in the future.  Sunshine warms the body and spirit.  God’s Son fills our soul.

Stay active – get up and walk the beach.  Play in the water.  Movement is important at the beach and in life.

When you bike at the beach, make sure you announce to those in front of you, “Bikes on your left.”  It is amazing how many people do not know which is their left and do not know which way to go.  Some bikers do not tell you and come up quickly behind you and scare you.  Sometimes in life, we are prepared for what is coming behind us and know what to do.  Sometimes things sneak up on us and we are not ready and do not know which way to go.

It is good to have friends wherever you travel – someone who knows the best restaurants and things to do and be of help when needed.  It is good to have a friend in Jesus who is always with you.

God will speak to you through every experience in life, you just need to listen and abide in His presence.

Living Set Apart

“But be holy in all you do, just as God, the One who called you, is holy. It is written in the Scriptures: “You must be holy, because I am holy.”  1 Peter 1:15-16

On Mother’s Day, I visited the cemetery, and I planted flowers on my mom’s and grandma’s grave.  I know they are in Heaven with Jesus but out of respect and love, I honored them that day.  I talked with them and thanked them for sharing Jesus with me and being the two main influences in my life and faith.  I prayed and thanked God for their lives and the gift they were to me.  I stood in this country cemetery and looked up at the blue sky and clouds.  I was surrounded by trees and plowed fields.  I felt the warmth of God’s love and presence and the love in my heart for my mom and grandma that never dies.   I set myself apart from the dailyness of life and experienced a holy moment.

We visited the Basilica and Shrine of Our Lady of Consolation and were in awe of its beauty and splendor.  The magnificence of the building just made me stand in quiet silence and take in each aspect of the Church and its significance.  I felt the glory of God all around me.  It was a holy moment.

I have watched nature unfold all around our home as the trees are in full leaves and the birds are singing their songs and eating from the birdfeeder.  The deer, birds, squirrels, chipmunks, rabbits, and a few other wild animals are enjoying the woods all around us.  It is amazing to look out the window and just watch nature develop and animals enjoy daily life.  It is a holy moment.

Then a dear friend, Dwight, who has been like a dad to me, drove up to see our home and shared lunch together with another friend.  We talked.  We laughed.  We shared tears of grief.  We remembered.  I took him on a tour of my hometown.  We hugged good-bye and spoke words of encouragement and love to one another.  It was a holy moment.

Holy means to be set apart for a special purpose.  Holy moments reflect God’s glory rather than the world.  Holy is living within the will of God.  It is focusing on God and looking for ways God reveals Himself in the moments of life.

When we worship, a holy moment may happen if we are open to God’s Spirit moving within us.  A song may touch you and you lift up your hands in praise to God.  It may touch your heart, and you quietly sigh and feel the presence of the Spirit within you.  It may be in a Church or in your car.  God speaks to you, and it becomes a holy moment. 

Are you living set apart?  That is, is your life set apart from the noise and hustle of this world, that you are listening for God to speak to you and bring hope and healing into your life?  Or has the world got a tight grip on you that you have conformed to the ways of this world and just want to fit in and find happiness in the things and possessions of this world?  You feel empty, though, and sometimes you feel lost in a world that continues but you have changed.

Living set apart means living differently.  It is living with purpose, a daily purpose.  It is no longer just existing or going around in circles.  It is living in the life you now have.  It may be different than you had hoped or expected, but it is the life that is in front of you.  You have been set apart to live differently than the world.  Keep your focus on Jesus and move closer to Jesus.  Do not live in the expectations of others or society.  You have been set apart to live the life only you were designed to live. 

Experience the holy moments of life.  They are right in front of you if you open yourself up to new adventures and experiences.  These holy moments reveal to you that God is always with you.  God has the power to take your breath away and have you stand in awe.  Eagerly pursue the holy.

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I am available to your group, organization, retreat or event to speak on a variety of topics – Grief & Loss, Next Steps Into Life, Living Life with Joy, Anxiety & Worry, Foundations of Life, and many others that we can create together.

Just message me, and we can schedule

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My Books are available through different venues

·       Tea Story in Upper Sandusky

·       Personally through me

·       Amazon

Living In The Different

          Live Different Moments

                     Life Lessons of a Lone Trooper

Check out my Newspaper Articles also on my Website – www.livinginthedifferent.com

Raising Your Ebenezer

“After this happened Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen.  He named the stone Ebenezer, saying, “The Lord has helped us to this point.”  I Samuel 7:12

We sat in our living room for several hours sharing memories from childhood and talked about the people in our lives during that time.  We laughed.  We asked questions.  We ate cookies and ice cream. We talked about cars, John Deere tractors, and first jobs.  My siblings, cousin and partners spent the afternoon remembering. Then we described our parents with memories to support our perspective.  When I asked how my siblings would describe our mom, my cousin immediately replied, “She was a sweetheart.”  Yes, she was.

My faith foundation was built through my mom and my Grandma (my dad’s mother).  My mom taught Sunday School, read her Bible, was a prayer warrior, and was a living testimony of Jesus.  She was known for her knowledge of the Bible, and she knew where to find something in the Scriptures.  Even her pastors would rely on her knowledge.  Her faith was strong, quiet, and it sustained her throughout life.  I so enjoyed over the years all my conversations with my mom about what a certain Scripture meant to her.  Being the youngest, I had the privilege of more one on one time with my mom after all my siblings left home and started their own lives.

As I have matured, I realize I have other traits and mannerisms that I have acquired from my mom – her love for baking and chocolate, her way of dealing with situations, her love for nature, the desire to read, and so many other pieces that fit into my foundation and make it strong. My mom has been an Ebenezer – a stone of help – throughout my life and even after her death.  She encouraged me through letters that I still possess and read from time to time.  Just knowing I have her tangible words in writing gives me hope and strength, and it makes me feel like she is with me.

My Mom’s knowledge was amazing.  She was my Google before Google was invented.  She was my “go to” person with all types of questions.  My mom was brilliant in her own humble, gentle way.  I still ask myself in many situations, “OK, mom, how do you do this?  What would you do?”

As I think about the foundation of life, it is built on faith in Jesus, trust, relationships, values and morals.  The spaces and cracks are filled in by Ebenezers – stones of help.  Who have been stones of help to you on your journey of life?  Some people come for a moment in our life to help us deal with a situation or give us guidance and teach us valuable lessons that we incorporate into our foundation.

When I meet with families to plan a funeral and to help them begin the process of sharing stories and memories, I ask, “What difference has your loved one made in your life?  What is their legacy for you?”  In essence, how have they built upon your foundation of life and been stones of help to you?  As we look back, we see the difference and when we look forward after time has passed, we recognize how they are still influencing our lives.

Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate our moms whether they are here on earth or in heaven.  My mom is living abundantly in Heaven with her Lord and Savior, Jesus.  Her love and influence continue to live in my life and heart.  She has been a stone of help to me.  Her faithfulness in writing to me during my college and seminary years and first years in ministry sustained me knowing I always had an encourager.  She lived her dream of college through me.  I was gifted with a wonderful mom who remains part of my foundation of life.

Stones of help guide us to certain points in our lives.  Look for stones along the way.  We all need help if we admit it.  God created us to be in relationships, and we need to reach out to others and be stones of help along their path too.  Recognize those who have helped you.  Give thanks for the stones.

Who are your Ebenezers – stones of help?  How can you be an Ebenezer to others?

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I am available to your group, organization, retreat or event to speak on a variety of topics – Grief & Loss, Next Steps Into Life, Living Life with Joy, Anxiety & Worry, Foundations of Life, and many others that we can create together.

Just message me, and we can schedule

***************************************************************************** 

My Books are available through different venues

·       Tea Story in Upper Sandusky

·       Personally through me

·       Amazon

Living In The Different

          Live Different Moments

                     Life Lessons of a Lone Trooper

Check out my Newspaper Articles also on my Website – www.livinginthedifferent.com

Raising Your Ebenezer

“After this happened Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen.  He named the stone Ebenezer, saying, “The Lord has helped us to this point.”  I Samuel 7:12

We sat in our living room for several hours sharing memories from childhood and talked about the people in our lives during that time.  We laughed.  We asked questions.  We ate cookies and ice cream. We talked about cars, John Deere tractors, and first jobs.  My siblings, cousin and partners spent the afternoon remembering. Then we described our parents with memories to support our perspective.  When I asked how my siblings would describe our mom, my cousin immediately replied, “She was a sweetheart.”  Yes, she was.

My faith foundation was built through my mom and my Grandma (my dad’s mother).  My mom taught Sunday School, read her Bible, was a prayer warrior, and was a living testimony of Jesus.  She was known for her knowledge of the Bible, and she knew where to find something in the Scriptures.  Even her pastors would rely on her knowledge.  Her faith was strong, quiet, and it sustained her throughout life.  I so enjoyed over the years all my conversations with my mom about what a certain Scripture meant to her.  Being the youngest, I had the privilege of more one on one time with my mom after all my siblings left home and started their own lives.

As I have matured, I realize I have other traits and mannerisms that I have acquired from my mom – her love for baking and chocolate, her way of dealing with situations, her love for nature, the desire to read, and so many other pieces that fit into my foundation and make it strong. My mom has been an Ebenezer – a stone of help – throughout my life and even after her death.  She encouraged me through letters that I still possess and read from time to time.  Just knowing I have her tangible words in writing gives me hope and strength, and it makes me feel like she is with me.

My Mom’s knowledge was amazing.  She was my Google before Google was invented.  She was my “go to” person with all types of questions.  My mom was brilliant in her own humble, gentle way.  I still ask myself in many situations, “OK, mom, how do you do this?  What would you do?”

As I think about the foundation of life, it is built on faith in Jesus, trust, relationships, values and morals.  The spaces and cracks are filled in by Ebenezers – stones of help.  Who have been stones of help to you on your journey of life?  Some people come for a moment in our life to help us deal with a situation or give us guidance and teach us valuable lessons that we incorporate into our foundation.

When I meet with families to plan a funeral and to help them begin the process of sharing stories and memories, I ask, “What difference has your loved one made in your life?  What is their legacy for you?”  In essence, how have they built upon your foundation of life and been stones of help to you?  As we look back, we see the difference and when we look forward after time has passed, we recognize how they are still influencing our lives.

Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate our moms whether they are here on earth or in heaven.  My mom is living abundantly in Heaven with her Lord and Savior, Jesus.  Her love and influence continue to live in my life and heart.  She has been a stone of help to me.  Her faithfulness in writing to me during my college and seminary years and first years in ministry sustained me knowing I always had an encourager.  She lived her dream of college through me.  I was gifted with a wonderful mom who remains part of my foundation of life.

Stones of help guide us to certain points in our lives.  Look for stones along the way.  We all need help if we admit it.  God created us to be in relationships, and we need to reach out to others and be stones of help along their path too.  Recognize those who have helped you.  Give thanks for the stones.

Who are your Ebenezers – stones of help?  How can you be an Ebenezer to others?

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I am available to your group, organization, retreat or event to speak on a variety of topics – Grief & Loss, Next Steps Into Life, Living Life with Joy, Anxiety & Worry, Foundations of Life, and many others that we can create together.

Just message me, and we can schedule

 ****************************************************************** 

My Books are available through different venues

·       Tea Story in Upper Sandusky

·       Personally through me

·       Amazon

Living In The Different

          Live Different Moments

                     Life Lessons of a Lone Trooper

Check out my Newspaper Articles also on my Website – www.livinginthedifferent.com

Making The Most of It

“Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.” Ephesians 5:15-16

My day was all scheduled, and I thought I was following God’s purpose by counseling that day. Then it all changed. Clients canceled for a variety of reasons. I was disappointed because I already had the day planned to serve God through counseling. My thoughts were focused on counseling. I had lost my purpose. Now what? At first, I was discouraged that I could not fulfill my plan and purpose, but the day was not lost. I just had to pause, pray, change my focus, and allow God to reveal to me my new tasks and purpose for the day.

I had to change directions in my thought process. I thought I knew my purpose for the day, but it was canceled. Just because what I had planned fell apart, the day still had purpose and meaning. I was able to accept the different focus and change directions. I let go of the ministry that defined me that day and enjoyed the beauty of God’s creation by planting some flowers and shrubs, taking a walk at a local park, reading, and being refreshed in a different way and purpose.

I could have stayed in the irritation of clients cancelling and wallowed in the negativity all day. But I made the most of my situation and saw the new opportunities in front of me. Do you make the most of your situation even when it becomes not what you had expected or planned? Life is only predictable in its unpredictability. Life happens. Changes occur. Diagnoses leave you speechless. Life throws you a curve ball when you had a straight and direct plan.

Make the most of it. Yes, easier said than done. We like our plans and having control of situations. It rains on days we had outdoor plans, and people cancel appointments and events. So what do you have now in front of you? God gives you other opportunities in the unexpected and unpredicted. We can sulk and be upset and allow it to ruin our mood and day. It does not mean we have to like what happened, but we cannot change it. The only thing we can change is our reaction to it.

Make the most of each day you are given. It is fully utilizing your gifts, abilities, your resources, and your opportunities around you. It is experiencing the day to its full potential. For example, it is making the most of your vacation – relax, take in the experience instead of worrying about what happens next, and live in the moment. It is not thinking about what you are going back to or working on vacation. It is leaving it behind and enjoying the possibilities.

Make the most of the life you have been given. Do not just exist but actually live. You may have experienced the loss of a spouse, the loss of a loved one, pain, trauma, hurt, or are dealing with a disease or diagnosis and you are struggling with the emotions and chaos that it has brought to your life. I am sorry for what you are going through. You cannot change the past or pretend it did not happen or stay stuck in the hurt. This is the life you have now. It is finding ways each day to live and experience moments of hope and life. You begin with what is in front of you and take steps forward. You have a foundation of love underneath you to hold you up. It is being grateful for what you have and not focus on what you lost.

Let’s go in another direction with this idea. Do you make the most of every opportunity to share your faith, to share words of encouragement, to connect with others who are struggling? We have opportunities to share love and hope with others, but we do not take the time, or we put it off until it is too late. You hear that someone you know lost a spouse or received a difficult diagnosis, and you have the opportunity to make the phone call or reach out in some way just to let them know they are in your thoughts and prayers. We may think it will not matter to them or you even question if you will be bothering them. Do it. It makes a difference.

Make the most of each day God has given you. It may not be what you planned or expected, but it is what you have. Live in the freedom you have. Live in the blessings you possess. Give each moment, each day a chance.

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I am available to your group, organization, retreat or event to speak on a variety of topics – Grief & Loss, Next Steps Into Life, Living Life with Joy, Anxiety & Worry, Foundations of Life, and many others that we can create together.

Just message me, and we can schedule

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My Books are available through different venues

• Tea Story in Upper Sandusky

• Personally through me

• Amazon

Living In The Different

Live Different Moments

Life Lessons of a Lone Trooper

Check out my Newspaper Articles also on my Website – www.livinginthedifferent.com

Who Goes With You?

“When you have the opportunity to help anyone, we should do it. But we should give special attention to those who are in the family of believers.” Galatians 6:10

This month has been filled with relationships that began in past seasons of my life. I have made visits in nursing homes, had lunch with friends of all ages, and shared conversations that were filled with emotions and depth. Life is about relationships. Some people we connect with for a season, and other people stay in our lives through different seasons. I believe there are just a handful of people with whom we share the depth of our heart and soul with true honesty without fear of judgment.

As I have moved throughout my adult life because of ministry changes or relationship changes, I have connected quickly with people and enjoyed the fellowship with the family of believers. It has been a joy to serve in churches and to counsel with people through the crises of life. These connections are part of my foundation of life and faith. I am grateful for the experience and their willingness to share life with me. They do not continue with me on my path of life, but it does not mean they are not important to me. If our paths cross again, the connection would still be there.

But there are people that go with us for a lifetime. I am not sure how we choose them or even if we actually make a conscious decision to keep them. We bring them from the past into the present and know that as long as we are both on this earth, we will walk beside each other. Recently, I have had seven friends with whom this bond is permanent. Four of them have been like adopted parents to me, and as they live into their nineties, I know our time together is limited. I value their wisdom, their love, and our heart connection. They share with me what they do not speak even with their biological children.

In the other three friendships, I am walking with them through an unknown journey and together we are finding our way through the jungle of life. They each come from different seasons of my life, but they have always gone with me. Why? It is because we communicate on a heart and faith level. It is a level that contains no judgment, only acceptance and a desire to be present for each other. Sometimes other people perceive them as having it all together and able to handle whatever comes into life because of their position or perceived depth of spiritual maturity. It is therefore difficult for them to share their struggles with some of their friends.

So, who goes with you? We know people. We interact with people. We may even have meals and conversations about easy topics like the weather, sports, food, vacations, and family. We love them and value their friendship. But when it comes to sharing our pain, hurts, struggles, and fears, very few people draw close enough to hear our hearts. When you find someone who truly hears your soul without judgment and allows you to just share without trying to fix or control, you keep them, and they go with you into all your seasons and chapters of life.

Josh Turner recorded the song, “Would You Go with Me?” Here are a few lines of the song –

“Would you go with me if we rolled down streets of fire? Would you hold on to me tighter as the summer sun got higher? If we roll from town to town and never shut it down. Would you go with me if we were lost in fields of clover? Would we walk even closer until the trip was over? And would it be okay if I didn’t know the way?”

The song was written as a romantic song asking their love interest to join them on a journey through the experiences of life. But for me, the song helps me to ponder who I would want to go with me through the experiences of life and be there for me even when I did not know the way. Whatever your struggles in life – grief, change, crisis, disease – who do you want to go with you through it? Yes, I know God is with me through everything. I rely on God to be my support, my rock, my strength, and to walk with me through every storm of life. I also, believe that God works through others. When friends allow the Holy Spirit to use them and speak through them, that friend is the person we want to be with us. Many times, we hear God speak to us through friends who are walking close to Jesus.

I discovered that this friend may not be the one you expected to be there for you. God connects the unexpected because God knows who we need. It may not be the person you share daily life with or even around the most, but it is someone you share your heart and soul with who loves you for who you are and the one you trust to listen and speak the truth to you when needed. It does not matter the age or stage of life; it is about the heart and soul. Live close to those who understand you and step into your struggle and walk with you.

So, who goes with you?

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I am available to your group, organization, retreat or event to speak on a variety of topics – Grief & Loss, Next Steps Into Life, Living Life with Joy, Anxiety & Worry, Foundations of Life, and many others that we can create together.

Just message me, and we can schedule

My Books are available through different venues

• Tea Story in Upper Sandusky

• Personally through me

• Amazon

Living In The Different

Live Different Moments

Life Lessons of a Lone Trooper

Check out my Newspaper Articles also on my Website – www.livinginthedifferent.com

Who Goes With You?

“When you have the opportunity to help anyone, we should do it. But we should give special attention to those who are in the family of believers.” Galatians 6:10

This month has been filled with relationships that began in past seasons of my life. I have made visits in nursing homes, had lunch with friends of all ages, and shared conversations that were filled with emotions and depth. Life is about relationships. Some people we connect with for a season, and other people stay in our lives through different seasons. I believe there are just a handful of people with whom we share the depth of our heart and soul with true honesty without fear of judgment.

As I have moved throughout my adult life because of ministry changes or relationship changes, I have connected quickly with people and enjoyed the fellowship with the family of believers. It has been a joy to serve in churches and to counsel with people through the crises of life. These connections are part of my foundation of life and faith. I am grateful for the experience and their willingness to share life with me. They do not continue with me on my path of life, but it does not mean they are not important to me. If our paths cross again, the connection would still be there.

But there are people that go with us for a lifetime. I am not sure how we choose them or even if we actually make a conscious decision to keep them. We bring them from the past into the present and know that as long as we are both on this earth, we will walk beside each other. Recently, I have had seven friends with whom this bond is permanent. Four of them have been like adopted parents to me, and as they live into their nineties, I know our time together is limited. I value their wisdom, their love, and our heart connection. They share with me what they do not speak even with their biological children.

In the other three friendships, I am walking with them through an unknown journey and together we are finding our way through the jungle of life. They each come from different seasons of my life, but they have always gone with me. Why? It is because we communicate on a heart and faith level. It is a level that contains no judgment, only acceptance and a desire to be present for each other. Sometimes other people perceive them as having it all together and able to handle whatever comes into life because of their position or perceived depth of spiritual maturity. It is therefore difficult for them to share their struggles with some of their friends.

So, who goes with you? We know people. We interact with people. We may even have meals and conversations about easy topics like the weather, sports, food, vacations, and family. We love them and value their friendship. But when it comes to sharing our pain, hurts, struggles, and fears, very few people draw close enough to hear our hearts. When you find someone who truly hears your soul without judgment and allows you to just share without trying to fix or control, you keep them, and they go with you into all your seasons and chapters of life.

Josh Turner recorded the song, “Would You Go with Me?” Here are a few lines of the song –

“Would you go with me if we rolled down streets of fire? Would you hold on to me tighter as the summer sun got higher? If we roll from town to town and never shut it down. Would you go with me if we were lost in fields of clover? Would we walk even closer until the trip was over? And would it be okay if I didn’t know the way?”

The song was written as a romantic song asking their love interest to join them on a journey through the experiences of life. But for me, the song helps me to ponder who I would want to go with me through the experiences of life and be there for me even when I did not know the way. Whatever your struggles in life – grief, change, crisis, disease – who do you want to go with you through it? Yes, I know God is with me through everything. I rely on God to be my support, my rock, my strength, and to walk with me through every storm of life. I also, believe that God works through others. When friends allow the Holy Spirit to use them and speak through them, that friend is the person we want to be with us. Many times, we hear God speak to us through friends who are walking close to Jesus.

I discovered that this friend may not be the one you expected to be there for you. God connects the unexpected because God knows who we need. It may not be the person you share daily life with or even around the most, but it is someone you share your heart and soul with who loves you for who you are and the one you trust to listen and speak the truth to you when needed. It does not matter the age or stage of life; it is about the heart and soul. Live close to those who understand you and step into your struggle and walk with you.

So, who goes with you?

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What Just Happened?

“The angel said to the women, “Don’t be afraid. I know that you are looking for Jesus, who has been crucified. He is not here. He has risen from the dead as he said he would. Come and see.” Matthew 28:5-6

He went to the hospital for a routine test and got through it fine. He went home, became ill and ended up in the emergency room still feeling groggy from the original test. More tests were administered, and an infection and other complications were found. It was at this point that the surgeon entered the room stating he had a team ready to operate. What? All of this happened so quickly and now he had to make a decision between an immediate surgery or wait to see if the antibiotics would work. He was trying to navigate the unknown and make a decision without fully understanding nor being able to completely focus.

We have all been at this point some time in our lives. Life seems to be going along fine, and then, Wham! Life changed. We ask ourselves, “What just happened?” Life changes without warning, and we stare at what occurred trying to figure out what to do next. You may have experienced a death or loss and have been navigating through the grief and trying to adjust to this different life, and you feel like you are moving forward in life. Then, it hits you and you just feel like you are falling apart and have no control. What just happened?

No matter how much you prepare for the unexpected, you cannot prepare for everything, and life will just happen. Accidents, medical issues, emotional triggers, and even making someone irritated just happens without reason or cause. You first feel shock and numbness and sometimes it feels like you are in a fog, daze or a nightmare. You thought you had it together and were proactive in planning for life situations, but sometimes we are just blind-sided and get knocked down.

It occurs in every situation of life, especially in relationships. You think all is going well, and then the person becomes silent and does not talk to you or answer your texts or calls. You are enjoying the day together you thought, and then you get an attitude from your friend. What just happened?

You could add to my examples, but you get the point. Life is filled with times we just stop and say, “What just happened?” “How do I navigate this unknown?” First, I have learned to cry out, “Jesus, come. I need you now.” I turn to my foundation, my faith, and sometimes your faith needs to come through a trusted friend because you cannot focus. You cannot think straight or even be rational and need someone to talk you through who is grounded especially in a crisis situation. When it involves medical decisions, you need someone with you to hear what you are trying to comprehend from the doctor. It is difficult to listen when fear and anxiety take hold.

I have been reading the Gospel accounts of Holy Week – from Palm Sunday to Resurrection Sunday. The disciples had to be in shock saying, “What just happened?” especially as they gathered together after the death of Jesus. Everything they thought they believed about Jesus being the Messiah was challenged with Jesus’ death. They believed an earthly kingdom was going to happened but now Jesus was dead. What are they going to do and believe now? The women go to the tomb to weep on Sunday morning, but an angel tells them Jesus is not here. Jesus is alive. What just happened?

Things happen so quickly for the disciples, the women, and for us. Our minds cannot comprehend or process how it all fits together. We ask the “why” question and what do you do now when your world is turned upside down. Many times you have never experienced what just happened so you cannot rely on your past. Other times, you go to what you did when something similar happened either to yourself or someone else.

Sometimes, you just have to step back, pause, take a deep breath, re-group your thoughts, pray, and say, “OK, God, let’s navigate through these waters together.” Do not let anxiety and fear control you. Yes, you will be in a heightened emotional state, but God has more power than your anxiety and fear. Trust Him.

Other times, you just have to wait it out and be patient. Let people have their needed space. Let go of your control and need to be right. Let the medicine work. You do not have to put everything together and plan how everyone will deal with it. Remind yourself, you just need to deal with what is in front of you. Just one step at a time.

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Turning Toward

“Jesus said to her, “Mary.” Mary turned toward Jesus and said in the Jewish language, “Rabboni.” (This means Teacher.) John 20:16

I have been the speaker at the Community Senior Luncheons this month and was asked to share about stress since it is Stress Awareness month. This past Tuesday, Bonnie responded, “When I am stressed, I eat desserts because if you spell stressed backward it is “desserts.” It is true for many people, when stress, worry, anxiety, or fear enter their thoughts, they attempt to stuff it down with food, mainly sweets or unhealthy snacks. People turn to something external to deal with these feelings. What do you turn toward?

We tend to turn toward many options in this world when faced with challenges, pain, loss, and changes. We seek comfort, guidance, and support. Some choices are only ways to escape the pain and heartache for a short period of time, but it does not bring hope and healing. Life may feel heavy and dark at times with no light to turn toward to guide our path.

Recently I was at Lake Erie and discovered the statue of the “Lightkeepers” at the Port Clinton lighthouse. The Lightkeepers’ purpose was to guide boats in the dark of the night to find the shore, to prevent accidents, and to ensure the light was always on. The light was a guide toward safety. What light are you going toward in life?

Life can feel uncertain and scary when we have experienced changes and losses. Maybe the person who has been your guide and light in life is no longer here with you. You may feel lost trying to find your way in this different life without your lightkeeper. Maybe the darkness of fear and stress has you turning toward worry. You do not know what to do and it feels like life is not what you planned or hoped. So, you just turn inward and circle your thoughts constantly in worry and fear.

Easter hope calls us to turn toward Jesus. Mary Magdelene on Resurrection morning went to the tomb of Jesus to weep. Mary had gone inward with her grief and fear. She discovered the stone of Jesus’ tomb was rolled away from the entrance, and the body of Jesus was gone. Jesus then appeared to her, but she did not recognize him until Jesus spoke her name and Mary turned toward Jesus.

In our grief and sadness, sometimes it is difficult to feel and see Jesus with us through the darkness of our pain. Jesus calls your name. He speaks to your heart and calls you and me to turn toward him in our sadness and hurt. Are you turning to the light of Jesus in every situation of your life? Easter reminds us of this hope that Jesus is alive and with us. We are never alone. Jesus will take our stress, worry, fears, and losses and carry the burden. Jesus lightens our load. We just need to keep turning toward Him. Jesus is our lightkeeper guiding us through the rough waters of life.

Unfortunately, it is easy to get lost in the darkness of the world and pile on the stress and worries even in the hope that Easter brings. Easter reminds us to refocus our lives to the One who is the light of the world, Jesus. Jesus brings hope, a hope of a hope. You are not alone. Change your focus from your stress and worries to Jesus who brings light and hope and the assurance He will walk with you. Turn your eyes on Jesus!

O soul, are you weary and troubled?

No light in the darkness you see?

There’s light for a look at the Savior,

And life more abundant and free.

Turn your eyes upon Jesus,

Look full in His wonderful face,

And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,

In the light of His glory and grace.

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Absolutely Positutely

“God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son so that whoever believes in him may not be lost, but have eternal life.” John 3:16

I had a very enjoyable day this past week doing what I love – making visits with people who have been a part of my life and need some extra support and compassion. One of the happiest people was my dear friend, Sue, who has dementia. I brought her chocolate chips cookies that she immediately consumed. We sang and listened to the old hymns of faith. When I talked about Jesus, Sue cried tears of joy knowing that one day she will see Jesus’ face and hug Him. Her joy of Heaven brought me to tears too. Oh, how she loves Jesus. Sue was filled with joy and smiles with the songs of worship, cookies, and companionship.

I felt totally in the moment and everything in life was good and light. She had given me the gift of joy. I came to brighten her day, and she brought sunshine and hope to mine. Sue’s favorite words to say when she agrees with something completely is – “Absolutely Positutely.” She said, “It makes people smile. You like my word?” Yes, I do.

Sue has no doubt that God loves her, and that God will take her to Heaven. “It would be wonderful to go see Jesus. Most best thing in the world, Absolutely Positutely.” She was positive and sure. Jesus loves her and Heaven is real even in her dementia. What are you “Absolutely Positutely” sure about in your life?

We tend to focus on the negative aspects of life that we know will happen. Life is not fair. Bad things happen to good people. Those we love will die. You cannot trust people. You will get hurt. People will always have something negative to say. I always mess up. Nobody is in control. And the list is endless.

When our thoughts continue down this negative path, it feeds our anxiety, depression, and view of ourselves. I agree that life is not fair, and bad things happen and people we love die. I cannot deny these truths, but there are many “absolutely postitutely” truths that we can focus on in our lives. I am not denying that we live in a fallen and broken world and evil, sin, and negativity are all around us. But focusing on the negative steals any hope and joy we have.

I may not agree with decisions being made around me nor the leadership, but I know I can pray and release everything to God who is in control. I believe God is in control even when it does not look like it. The absolute truth is God is power, strength, knowledge, justice, love, and grace. God is present with each one of us. God loves you. God sent Jesus to earth to die for our sins. Jesus was resurrected and gives to you and me the hope of Heaven. Heaven is real, and we, like Sue, who love and believe in Him, will live forever in Heaven. God is with us through his Holy Spirit.

Yes, there are many absolute truths about our world – gravity, fundamental math facts, water freezes at 0 degrees Celsius, the earth is round. Something absolute is true in all situations. There are numerous scientific and philosophical facts that are absolutely true. I have mentioned a few here. My focus is what truths are you building your life upon? What are your foundational truths that are guiding your path in life?

Yes, life is hard and challenging and difficult and different in this season of life. Life is also beautiful and fulfilling and joyful and filled with adventures. It depends upon your perspective. Are you negative or positive? Are you focusing on all that has gone wrong and all that you are required to accomplish? Yes, life comes with expectations and necessary tasks. Focus on what is good in your life. Change your thought focus. Paul tells us in Philippians 4:8 – “Think about things that are good and worthy of praise. Think about the things that are true and honorable and right and pure and beautiful and respected.”

I am choosing, like Sue, to be positive and filled with joy even in the midst of the pain and heartache of life. Sue is dealing with a disease that takes away the reality of who she is and what she remembers. But Sue remembers Jesus and knows Jesus lives in her heart. I am not denying the trials of her family in dealing with the disease, but in the moments I spent with her, Jesus was our focus.

What if we choose to focus on Jesus not the negatives of the world? Instead of complaining and raising our anxiety and fear, we prayed and released it to the Absolute God. When life gets overwhelming and filled with fear, we need to remind ourselves, “God, you love me and are with me. You tell me not to be afraid but to trust you.”

I’m going to be positive and focus on being grateful. To give thanks for those who have come before me and whose love never dies and lives on within me. I am going to release control to God. Absolutely Positutely!!!

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Hope Even In Reality

“And this hope will never disappoint us, because God has poured out his love to fill our hearts.” Romans 5:5

We gathered to remember and celebrate the life of a high school classmate. We stood together to represent our entire class. His parents were burying their second son. Our hearts ached for his parents. That is not the natural order of life. The pastor shared words of hope. He shared Psalm 23 reminding all of us how God is our Shepherd who guides us through the valley of the shadow of death. We prayed together and heard the words of the hope of Heaven. The reality as we stood beside the casket was that our classmate was physically gone from our sight.

After the service, we stood and talked and remembered our time together in high school. We remembered Kevin and our shared experiences. In these memories, hope was restored even in the reality of loss. We remembered his intelligence and talents, and his quirky personality. He had made a difference in our high school years and therefore, he had a purpose in life. It made his classmates ponder life and the brevity of it. Where is our hope today?

It is difficult to live in hope when we experience death and loss and change. Life is not what we expected or hoped it would be. We tend to focus on what we want life to be and become disappointed and even angry when God’s plan does not match our plan. We see no hope for our lives in death and loss. Yes, we accept there is hope for the one who leaves this world and enters the hope of heaven. But our lives can feel hopeless and empty. So how do we live in hope now even in the reality of present life without just focusing on Heaven?

I am finding that when hope is dependent only on how I feel and my circumstances, hope is not alive. I am disappointed and not able to sustain the hope on my own. I mess up and fail and my feelings get hurt and others frustrate me. I lose focus. I believe some of you can relate to this view of life. You want to live in hope and focus beyond the hurt and pain, but it seems overwhelming and impossible. Your heart is broken, and hope feels like it is just pretending everything is fine.

Hope is more than your feelings and your circumstances. Hope is trust and believing the foundation of your life will sustain you in every situation in life. Your heart may feel empty and broken, but living in the reality of hope now is when God fills your heart with His love. You do not have to understand why life has happened as it has; you just need to trust God is still with you in it. Even when your situation does not change, you can still live in hope. It is based not on you and your outward circumstances but is based on God’s love that is within you even when you do not feel the love. It is present.

Hope is present. When I truly relax in God’s presence – truly just be, I can release the world view of myself and my life. God has no expectations of performance or conditions of love. I am loved because of who God is. I am hopeful in my present state because God just loves me for me. Hope is fulfilled because of God not because of me. My reality may not change. Death still happened, but hope is present because God is present with you.

Hope in our current situation involves a focus change. Hope is the trust that even if I cannot see the good in my circumstances, God is still with me and still loves me. When I focus on just breathing in God’s Spirit and not the anxiety, fear and worry that is around me, hope is present. Hope in my reality includes a release from the confines of this world’s view of myself and my own expectations. It is releasing my view that God’s love and peace has conditions and performance expectations. This is not true.

Hope is truly believing God just loves me now and that whatever happens, God is in control and God has me. This is not being naïve or putting your head in the sand. It is not allowing the world to take away your present hope. Hope is what sustains you and keeps you from spiraling down the hole of negativity and depression.

Live in the hope that God is with you right now. That you do not have to figure it all out or even know what to do right now. Live in the hope that it is OK to be who you are and trust God has you.

Hope even in your present reality.

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So What Am I Suppose To Do Now?

“God has made us what we are. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing.” Ephesian 2:10

He called. He was frustrated and did not know how to handle the situation. He wanted to control it, but he knew that it was not his to control. He did not have the patience or the words to talk through it. He knew that this was my area of knowledge and experience. So, I went, and I had the conversation. I was using the gifts God has given to me. I believe I was doing and currently am trying to do what God has planned for me to live my life doing. I have come to the acceptance that I am not the one making the plan, I am following God’s plan for my life. I am doing what I am supposed to be doing right now even when I wonder if it is enough and am I discerning God’s plan.

You may be wondering who you are now and what your life is supposed to look like. God made you what you are. God created you with your uniqueness and given you gifts and purpose. In each season or stage of living, your life and purpose will look different. Your life has valleys and struggles along with the joys and adventures. It is a mixture. It is learning from all of it and allowing God to use it for His purpose.

Right now, you may feel you are barely hanging on. You are just existing because of the loss, change, pain, hurt, or challenges of life. God has a plan for you even where you are. Remember, you are God’s child. In these times, God has a plan for you – hold on to hope and hold on to His hand. God’s plan for you is some self-care right now. That may not seem to be enough, but God knows you need to strengthen your foundation and acceptance of life beginning with taking care of the one God loves – that’s you. Start with the basics – take a shower, eat something healthy, make your bed, do some movement, go outside and look up.

Maybe you are in the depths of grief and loss. God’s plan for you right now is to grieve and allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. It is beginning to change your focus from the depth of loss to becoming grateful for the relationship and the foundation of love. It is focusing on the blessings of your loved one in your life. God’s plan for you right now is to rest and to give yourself permission to grieve and heal.

Sometimes the good work God has planned for us is to take care of ourselves. To just be His child. God wants us to surrender to Him and allow Him to guide us and give us strength for each day. We try to figure out life on our own and to earn favor with God. Because we are God’s child, God has wonderful plans for our lives to live fully and abundantly sharing in His love and grace. Sometimes God wants us to abide with Him. Just be and not focus on performance.

If you feel you are beginning to move forward into a new season of life, but you do not know the direction or path to take, then wait and listen. This is part of discernment. We may create a plan and desire to be busy and work for God and His purpose. But we usually define for ourselves what must be our purpose without waiting for God’s leading. We created a plan and ask God to bless it. We feel compelled to constantly be busy and always say “yes” to opportunities or even try to create ways to do more. Believing if an opportunity arises, it is what God wants for me.

I am learning to wait and listen. I ask, “God, is this from you? Is this what You have for me today?” The closer we stay to Jesus, the more we know and hear the whisper of God. For instance, I was cleaning and preparing to bake cookies to give away, when the phone rang. I answered and heard the overwhelming anxiety in her voice. I knew this was God’s plan for me today to come to her aid and just walk beside her. I listened to the inner voice of God speak to me. This was what I was supposed to do. The other activities could wait.

What are you supposed to do now? Slow down. Listen. Trust Jesus and get closer to Him. Ask God what He has for you today. Live in front of you. Stay active and not busy. Busy is fueled by anxiety and worry and fear that you are not doing enough. Active involves listening and resting and being and experiencing life.

“God, what do you have for me today?”

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Sunshine In The Peace

“I pray that the God who gives hope will fill you with much joy and peace while you trust in Him. Then your hope will overflow by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13

I enjoyed the days of sunshine this past week. One afternoon, I sat on my front porch in the sun and listened to the birds singing their songs of joy. The blue sky and warmth of the sun gave me hope for Spring and warmer days ahead. I trust these signs of creation because each year my hope becomes reality. Yes, there will be cooler days and three more snows after the forsythia blooms, but I have hope.

The moments in the sunshine as I looked up into the sky gave a calm peace inside of me. When you look up, you see only what God created. All the tasks and responsibilities are in the background. You breathe deeply and release the world pressures for a few moments. You feel peaceful. This reveals how much the things of this world take away our peace and control us. We need to take these breaks and breathe in God’s creation.

Yes, we have responsibilities and daily tasks that need to be accomplished. That is the fact of life, but life is also peace and joy. We seem to forget that peace and contentment are natural parts of living, too. The things of this world seem to overshadow this inner peace. Life is far from perfect. It will always have struggles, pain, sadness, loss, hurt, heartache, and the lists are endless. When our focus is on all these obstacles and hurts, we live in anxiety, fear, being overwhelmed, and stressed. We assume this is just what life will always be like, and it is what life has dealt us. Life also has peace, joy, love, kindness, goodness, and more.

I am not trying to minimize your pain and struggle. It is real and it is there, but how do you change your focus to the good that is within you? You are more than your disease, your grief, your trauma. God created you with hope. A hope that cannot be defined by your circumstances.

Hope sometimes is difficult to see in the times of darkness in life, but that is where trust in God comes into the situation. It is praying, “Lord, all I see is darkness, but I trust You in the dark. You are the God of hope. Help me see your light and allow your Spirit to enter my heart with Your peace. Amen.”

As I sit in the driveway in the sunshine writing these words, I hear the wind and feel the warm breeze. I look up and see the blue sky and bright sunshine and in these moments God’s peace and joy fill me. I trust God’s Spirit will speak within my heart and give me the words to write that will bring hope to you, my friend. When I close my eyes and allow God’s creation to fill me, I have peace and contentment. I have slowed down and not allowed the world’s view to cloud God’s view of my life. I trust God because God has been with me in the past and continues to be with me. God gives to me a hope of a hope when it seems impossible.

Nature teaches us rest and renewal through the changing seasons. Rest is self-care. It is allowing the sun and the breeze to absorb within us, and it changes our perspective that life is not meant to be always busy and outwardly productive. God is more interested in our inner spirit than our outward accomplishments. When the Holy Spirit is within us, God’s goal is to put our spirit in a restful place. The Spirit of God gives to us inner peace and contentment as we rest in Him. Yes, peace and joy and hope are a natural part of life.

The world is loud, but God whispers to your spirit. Do not focus on the expectations and hurts of life. They will always desire to control you if you let them. Trust that God has got the world and you, even when it does not feel like it. When the wind blows in the fears and worries, trust the hope that the Holy Spirit’s power will blow through you and give you peace to walk you through whatever situation you are currently going through. This peace assures you that you are never alone. There is peace in the sunshine. It is always in your heart even when darkness is all around you. Uncover it from what the world has tried to dump on you.

Live in the sunshine of peace.

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Longing For the Light

Jesus said, “I am the light of the world. The person who follows me will never live in darkness but will have the light that gives life.” John 8:12

“You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. You make me happy when skies are gray. You’ll never know, dear, how much I love you. Please don’t take my sunshine away.” You sang those words, didn’t you? I have sung this song’s chorus with little children and the elderly. At retreats and in the memory care unit. It always brings a smile and sunshine to the heart. Sunshine brings hope and light and joy into life. We tend to feel better when the sun is shining.

The winter had many gloomy days without a hint of sun. Some days the sun peaked through the clouds for a brief moment, and then the dreariness of the day covered the sun. The sunlight is now staying longer in the days that lead to Spring. Daylight Savings Time is upon us, and we are enjoying the light lingering longer in the evenings. Sunshine brings renewed energy and brightness not just to the day but to our attitude and soul. We tend to be more active when the sun is shining, and our mood reflects the light. I enjoy the beauty of the sunrise and the sunset as God creates a masterpiece each time just for you and me. It is amazing.

I have been sorting through my memorabilia totes that contain awards, letters, pictures, and lots of papers from my past. I have letters from my mom and Grandma, and cards from people in various churches I served. I found letters of recommendation for scholarships from teachers and pastors. I found evaluations from professors. One letter listed gifts he saw in me, and he stated – “Your spirit of joy is the best gift you brought to our group. You have a smile and a particular gleam in your eyes that helps others to feel good and to mirror that sparkle.” Then I found a little card that had my name on it and what Elaine means – “Bright, Shining Light.”

I share this statement not to focus on myself, but I share it to reflect on the words of light my teacher saw in me so many years ago. My parents gave me the name “Elaine” that means “light.” We seek light and brightness in life. Light sparkles when it reflects off something shiny. In the Gospel of John, Jesus said, “I am the light of the world.” (John 8:12) In the Gospel of Matthew, Jesus said, “You are the light of the world.” (Matthew 5:14) Jesus wants us to reflect His light to others. Jesus’ light through us will reflect the glory of God and bring others to the light of Jesus.

Light is preferred, but life also brings darkness. The darkness of loss, grief, change, trauma, struggles, and challenges. Sometimes it is difficult to see the light of Jesus in this darkness. At times, the darkness seems to overpower the light, and we see no light at the end of the long dark tunnel. Darkness is just dark. Light begins to peak through the darkness of our souls when someone steps in our darkness with the light of Jesus. We do not immediately receive the light, but we see the glimmer of the light and begin to long for light and hope and a relief from the dark nights of our soul.

Who has been light in your darkness? Who has walked into your despair and lit the candle of hope? You saw the flicker but were not ready to receive the light. You knew it was there, and your friend was reflecting the hope of Jesus into your darkness. We all need someone to be the light to guide us out of the darkness and give us moments of hope. It may take time to change your darkness into light but allow the light to penetrate and revive your soul. Acknowledge the flicker of light in moments of your life and soon those moments come together, and light begins to fill your heart and soul. The situation may not change, but you begin to accept the joy in the middle of the struggle.

Light can overcome the darkness of despair. Long for the light and do not succumb to the darkness of despair. Life may not be what you had hoped or planned, but it is still a gift from God. Go live the life you have now. Allow the smile and joy of others to give you hope not irritation. Many people still smile in the pain. It is a choice to let the light into your struggles and heartache. The light brings moments of refreshment.

When you have received this light in the depth of your darkness and been able to walk into the light of Jesus’ presence, you will want to help others who come behind you to find this light and hope in life. When we give light and hope to others it fills our souls with the light of Jesus and renews us.

Keep longing for the light. Be the light to others. You are my sunshine!

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Talking It Over

“You will teach me how to live a holy life. Being with you will fill me with joy; at your right hand I will find pleasure forever.” Psalm 16:11

An evening of entertainment, music, and a wonderful spirit around me. We experienced an evening concert with Josh Turner. Josh and his band not only played some of my favorite songs, but they entertained with their stage presence. They danced, they interacted with each other on stage, and they had fun sharing their talent for music with the audience.

Josh Turner is a country music singer who is a Christian. He began the concert by singing songs from his new album – “This Country Music Thing.” Then in the middle of the concert, he shared his faith by singing several of the Gospel songs he wrote. In the midst of his entertaining he praised God.

Josh Turner is one of my favorite Christian country artists. His song, “Me and God” is one of the songs that I turned to during my grief and next steps of life. In the intensity of my grief, this song reminded me I was not alone. Life had changed, but God was the same and always with me. I could talk to God in the middle of anything. It continues to keep me grounded in what is important in life and where my focus needs to be. Some of the words of the song –

“Early in the morning talking it over, Me and God.

Late at night talking it over, Me and God.

You could say we’re like two peas in a pod, Me and God.

He’s my Father, He’s my friend.

The beginning and the end,

He rules the world with a staff and the rod.

We’re a team, Me and God.”

God shows up in the middle - in the midst of - every situation in our lives. It is in Jesus we can find rest in the middle of the chaos and struggles of life. When we are in the middle of grief, turmoil, pain, sadness, and struggles, we tend to become overwhelmed and barely exist in survival mode. We may feel like we are going around in circles, and feel like we are living on the merry-go-round of life. It just keeps going and never stops to give us a break. When we are in the middle there seems to be no way out. We see no possibility of life getting better because we are only focused on our own strength and abilities, and we are tired and not able to function well.

This is when the song, “Me And God” pulled me out of the middle of my own pain and grief, and reminded me that God is with me in the middle of everything I encounter in life. I can talk over with God everything that happens in life. God listens from morning until night, and even if I awake in the middle of the night, God will listen. God is my Father and my friend. He takes me by the hand and walks with me. I am on God’s team. I am never alone.

God loves us because we are His children. We sometimes think we have not done enough for God to earn the privilege of talking with God and asking for help, strength, or guidance. So we try it alone with our meager strength and ability and become exhausted, and life seems impossible to navigate. That’s not the life that Jesus came to offer you and me. Jesus died for our salvation and freedom from the shackles and burdens of life. He did not say we would not experience pain and hurt, but He promised to carry the load if we will just release it to Him and talk everything over with Him.

Jesus is with us in the midst of everything we encounter in life. We just need to recognize His presence and talk everything over with Him. I have come to the acceptance that life is about “Me and God.” That is the most important relationship. While I love the people in my life, my relationship with my Heavenly Father is the most important and it is with whom I talk about every detail and decision. For me, to describe this relationship it is like the Holy Spirit – the Spirit of God – lives in the back of my head and every thought, feeling, experience, goes through Him.

When I focus on just Me and God, the things of this world seem not worth the worry and fear. I know God’s got it. It is not that I don’t care, it is I care so much that I put it into the hands of God. My desire is to live so close to God and talk with God about everything and surrender everything to God. Then my prayer is to say and do what God wants me to do since we have been talking it over. God is in charge, and I just follow His lead.

We’re a team – Me and God. Just talking it over!

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Hearing The Gesture

“My children, we should love people not only with words and talk, but by our actions and true caring.” 1 John 3:18

“If you ever need anything, just give me a call. I will be here for you.” Someone has probably said this statement to you at one of your lowest times in life. It may have been after the death of a loved one, a trauma, or a challenging situation. The words were spoken with sincerity, but you did not believe it was an open invitation to call anytime. You never called, and they never reached out to assist you. Then someone brought you peach cobbler in the midst of your move just to let you know they cared. Their action made you feel loved and that someone really cared and followed through with more than words. Actions tend to speak louder than words.

I told him I was here for him and if he needed anything, to call me. He called and needed a ride to the hospital and needed someone to be with him during the process. I gave him my word and followed through with action. I know what it is like to be at a low time in life and just need someone to reach out and show they care by their actions. He felt alone and heard only negativity in his own head about himself and felt the rejection from others. I heard God’s call to love with words and action. It was my purpose at that moment.

I have been listening to Pastor Jim Stauffer’s sermon series on the Five Love Languages based on Gary Chapman’s book with the same title. Those Five Love Languages are – Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Touch, Acts of Service and Quality Time. We each have a predominant way we receive and give love. All are important and enhance relationships. We may use different ones in giving and receiving love. The key is to experience the love and care in the way it was given.

In our times of sadness, loneliness, and grief, I believe we need to see love in action. These love languages are expressions that can be seen, felt, touched, heard and experienced. When life has changed and everything feels different, it is difficult to accept words because they seem empty and trite. Our thoughts are full of words that tend to go in circles and no hope is found in all these thoughts and fears. It is hard to focus when you are going through loss, pain, grief, and struggles. We get lost in the words of the past and the future seems broken. Words seem meaningless.

In these low times, someone offers and tells you to call them if you need anything. It feels empty and you wonder if they said it just to be polite. You know you will never call even if you need them. You need someone to do for you what you cannot do – reach out. To care and show it by their actions. To do something even when you decline their offer. You push away but you want them to pull closer at the same time.

You want out of the mud hole of despair. You hear the words spoken and the directions given on how to get out of the mud hole, but in your sadness, loneliness and negative thoughts, it does not seem possible. You need someone to reach out and take you by the hand. You need action. Someone to shovel your snow-covered driveway. Someone to bring you cookies or a hot fudge sundae. Someone who would take you out to dinner. To watch a movie with you. Hug you. Sit with you in the Hospital. And the list is endless. You will decline all the offers when you are at your lowest, but you know it is what you need.

We hear love in words, but we experience love in action and true caring. Love with words and actions. God does. God loves us so much He sent His Son, Jesus into our world to live and die for us so that when we die, we will live with Him. God gives us His Word – the Bible, but He also gives us His presence and shows us His love in creation. God loves you even in your lowest times and even when your heart is broken. God comes to you through other people, His Holy Spirit, the beauty of nature, through worship and music, and even through cookies and Hot Fudge Sundaes.

Hear the action. Receive the love. Need some chocolate chip cookies?

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Hearing The Gesture

“My children, we should love people not only with words and talk, but by our actions and true caring.” 1 John 3:18

“If you ever need anything, just give me a call. I will be here for you.” Someone has probably said this statement to you at one of your lowest times in life. It may have been after the death of a loved one, a trauma, or a challenging situation. The words were spoken with sincerity, but you did not believe it was an open invitation to call anytime. You never called, and they never reached out to assist you. Then someone brought you peach cobbler in the midst of your move just to let you know they cared. Their action made you feel loved and that someone really cared and followed through with more than words. Actions tend to speak louder than words.

I told him I was here for him and if he needed anything, to call me. He called and needed a ride to the hospital and needed someone to be with him during the process. I gave him my word and followed through with action. I know what it is like to be at a low time in life and just need someone to reach out and show they care by their actions. He felt alone and heard only negativity in his own head about himself and felt the rejection from others. I heard God’s call to love with words and action. It was my purpose at that moment.

I have been listening to Pastor Jim Stauffer’s sermon series on the Five Love Languages based on Gary Chapman’s book with the same title. Those Five Love Languages are – Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Touch, Acts of Service and Quality Time. We each have a predominant way we receive and give love. All are important and enhance relationships. We may use different ones in giving and receiving love. The key is to experience the love and care in the way it was given.

In our times of sadness, loneliness, and grief, I believe we need to see love in action. These love languages are expressions that can be seen, felt, touched, heard and experienced. When life has changed and everything feels different, it is difficult to accept words because they seem empty and trite. Our thoughts are full of words that tend to go in circles and no hope is found in all these thoughts and fears. It is hard to focus when you are going through loss, pain, grief, and struggles. We get lost in the words of the past and the future seems broken. Words seem meaningless.

In these low times, someone offers and tells you to call them if you need anything. It feels empty and you wonder if they said it just to be polite. You know you will never call even if you need them. You need someone to do for you what you cannot do – reach out. To care and show it by their actions. To do something even when you decline their offer. You push away but you want them to pull closer at the same time.

You want out of the mud hole of despair. You hear the words spoken and the directions given on how to get out of the mud hole, but in your sadness, loneliness and negative thoughts, it does not seem possible. You need someone to reach out and take you by the hand. You need action. Someone to shovel your snow-covered driveway. Someone to bring you cookies or a hot fudge sundae. Someone who would take you out to dinner. To watch a movie with you. Hug you. Sit with you in the Hospital. And the list is endless. You will decline all the offers when you are at your lowest, but you know it is what you need.

We hear love in words, but we experience love in action and true caring. Love with words and actions. God does. God loves us so much He sent His Son, Jesus into our world to live and die for us so that when we die, we will live with Him. God gives us His Word – the Bible, but He also gives us His presence and shows us His love in creation. God loves you even in your lowest times and even when your heart is broken. God comes to you through other people, His Holy Spirit, the beauty of nature, through worship and music, and even through cookies and Hot Fudge Sundaes.

Hear the action. Receive the love. Need some chocolate chip cookies?

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Anticipated Prediction

“But you do not know what will happen tomorrow! Your life is like a mist. You can see it for a short time, but then it goes away. So you should say, “If the Lord wants, we will live and do this or that.” James 4:14-15

This winter weather has been full of surprises, but it has also been typical winter weather for Ohio. You make plans and anticipate that the forecast is true, but then you cancel plans because of the ice storm. Then you do not make plans because of the prediction of a storm and nothing happens. You feel you just wasted your time and could have enjoyed a great adventure. You make plans to stay inside and then the sun comes out and the blue sky is clear and inviting. You make plans to take a walk and then the snowstorm emerges.

We try to anticipate the weather, and meteorologists make predictions. A prediction is a forecast for the future. It is an educated guess basically. We live in the Midwest where the winter can contain all four seasons in a single day. It can be harsh and cold for weeks or mild and sunny. It can change without warning or prediction. We even try to fool ourselves with a ground hog and the prediction of an early Spring. No matter what, Spring only comes when it is good and ready to come. We hope and dream, but reality is, it will come whenever the weather decides to change and commit to staying Spring. We anticipate Spring in the cold of winter.

Anticipation. To look forward to, to expect. Some of you anticipate life will be good and what you hope for will happen. Keep up the positive attitude and outlook. Proud of you. While others of you anticipate doom and gloom. If something could go wrong, you know it will go wrong for you. You predict disaster, heartache, and falling apart if it is connected to you. Your motto has been – “If something can go wrong, it will.” I get it. Life seems to go from bad to worse for you, and it feels like a dark cloud follows you around.

Life did not turn out like you expected, anticipated nor predicted. You had hopes and dreams and life went in a different direction. We want to make choices for our lives, and we do have some choices. Not all of our choices are healthy and good because we make mistakes and are easily swayed by other people and the views of society. We do have a choice in our attitude toward life. We live in a fallen and broken world and bad stuff happens to good people. We try to understand and make sense out of something that makes no sense at all.

So, you may feel that life is not what you predicted it to be at this stage of life. Or it may be better than expected. Either way, life is what is in front of you, and you get the choice to find peace and contentment or fight against it all the way. Your choice. Let’s anticipate something that is true no matter who you are or what life has given you. God is with you. You are not alone. God created you to be who you are and there is a reason for you being you. Only you can do what you were created to do.

God promises you this current moment and to be with you. God may not take you out of the current storm, but God will walk with you through it. This is the life you have. Nobody else can make it better for you. It is your choice. Let us look forward to walking with Jesus and finding moments of good. You need to look for the good. It may not be what you anticipate that will bring good. It is being open to new possibilities and adventures.

We may also anticipate how others will react to us. We worry and become anxious in this anticipation because we want to please others and make them happy. Sorry, that is not your responsibility. You may anticipate other people’s reactions and try to prepare how to respond to them, but this anticipation will only bring anxiety and fears. You cannot control another person’s response. Because of your history with a person, you may predict how they will respond. It is learning to accept a person for who they are and not absorbing their responses.

We tend to have a preconceived view of what life should be and how it should look. What if we let go of this idea, and trust that God has a different plan and way for us to view life. I can choose to be miserable because what I anticipated did not happen, or I can choose to enjoy the surprises of life and find good in the moments. Let’s choose to trust God in each moment of life.

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Reactions To Life

“Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives.” Matthew 11:28-29

Recently I had an allergic reaction to a medication that I tried. It caused a rash and many other physical symptoms. It was suggested to give relief to my congestion, but it caused a very unpleasant experience. I learned how my body reacts to something foreign to it. It has made me more sensitive and cautious about what I put into my body even when it is helpful to others. My body had an adverse physiological response, that is, I had a negative response to a substance.

In life, what causes negative responses that affect us physically? I have a client that is dealing with canker sores in her mouth caused by her absorbing all the emotions around her. Her body is reacting negatively to internalizing these emotions. She is trying to process through them and make healthier decisions for herself. She knows she needs to let go of fixing others and trying to control their behaviors. She is allergic to the absorption of emotions.

How are you responding to the negativity, chaos, and unwanted events in your life that trigger a boatload of emotions? Do you absorb the feelings of others and try to fix everybody and the situation through control? Do you run away and escape life? Does it feel like you are allergic to everything and breaking out all over? You may be having an allergic reaction to life.

I have learned some important truths through my experience this week. First, just because something is healthy for someone else does not make it healthy for me. This relates to life situations, too. How one person deals with a situation may work for them, but it may not work for you. Each person was created unique not just in looks and behaviors but also in emotions and how we react to situations. When we compare ourselves to others and wonder why we cannot do what they just did, it is because we are not them.

Next, I learned that negativity is like something foreign to the body. It does not fit well, or process well nor even settle well into our systems. Negativity permeates into every fiber of our being and makes life feel overwhelming and miserable. We begin to pile everything together and see all of life as bad when it really is not. It is separating the emotions and dealing with each situation by itself. Just because I had an allergic reaction, it did not change my relationships, my faith, my work, and my purpose in life. It just temporarily changed how I was feeling.

I learned that rest is essential for my body to heal from reactions and illness. Pushing through is helpful to a point, but rest is needed to heal completely. Jesus calls us to come to him when we are tired and have heavy loads. Jesus will give us rest. Yes, we need physical rest, but we also need spiritual and emotional rest. That is, we need to rest in the presence of Jesus and allow Jesus to renew us from within. We tend to deplete our spiritual reservoir because we rely only on what we put into it. God’s grace never runs dry, we just think we have to earn the grace that we use. That is a false statement. Grace and love and forgiveness are freely given.

Sometimes, we think we need to get our act together first before God will love us and accept us as His child. We try to do all the right things, fix our guilt by staying busy and overcome our failures by volunteering more. Then we are exhausted even more. We think we should be through the grief, over the pain, healed from the trauma, and work harder to overcome the guilt and shame. We beat ourselves up. Stop reacting the way the world says to react to life.

Maybe, it is time to listen to Jesus’s words again,” Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest.” Trust Jesus. The rest is more than physical rest. It is rest from trying to prove to God that you can earn His love and grace. It is rest from feeling you should be better and farther along on the journey. It is time to rest in God’s loving arms and just be God’s child who is loved not for what you do, but for whose you are – God’s child.

Rest in the freedom that God has you. You are not alone in this struggle of life. Stop reacting to everything as if it is your responsibility. Sometimes things just happen, and we have to let it work itself out just like my reaction to medication. My body had to release it. I had to rest my body. Focus more on releasing instead of reacting. Rest in God’s presence and let God work it out.

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